May 08, 2008
How Becoming a Working Mom Has Changed Me
After years of reading about issues facing working mothers, at the beginning of April I became one myself. It’s not an easy job, working and raising a family. So with Mother’s Day this month, I starting thinking about how being a working mother has transformed the way I live and work.
Becoming a mom, and especially a working one, has made me a morning person, like it or not. I no longer just roll out of bed and go to work. I need to get another little person up, changed and out the door.
The work that goes along with motherhood, coupled with the demands of my job, can really tire me out -- now I understand Thad’s post about his exhaustion from a few years ago. It’s been important (and not easy) for me to put my pride aside and ask for help when I need it, whether it be from my husband, my mother-in-law or my own mom.
As every parent knows, raising a child is not a 9-to-5 job. When my son is up in the night, the next day at work can be difficult. I’ve learned to live on fractured sleep, naps when I can take them and caffeine.
Having a child has also changed the way I work. Knowing my workday could be pierced by a call saying my son is sick and needs to be picked up (it hasn’t happened yet, but it’s only a matter of time), I’ve learned to triage the tasks I can only do in the office first. It’s also made me more efficient time-wise -- not only do I work a compressed schedule, but I have a hard stop at the end of every day, since my son needs to be picked up.
Finally, and most importantly, I think becoming a mom, and particularly a working one, has put my career in balance and perspective for me. My job is still important, sure, but so is being there for my son. He’s one of the main reasons I work, after all.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms -- we all work, whether we have a job outside the home or not. And feel free to tell us about your experience of being a working mom in the comments below.
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Hoorah for all moms. I found out many years ago my teen aged children needed me more than my job...the idea of leaving my nursing career was a difficult one. My children came first. Your blog has reminded me that I made the right choice. Thank you!
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Posted by: Lana | May 27, 2008 1:11:36 PM
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Posted by: Kay | Oct 8, 2008 11:57:24 AM
Dear new mom,
I will give the best advice there is, and I wish some one would have told me. So, here it is... You are a mother. you are going to be tired. you will be tired a lot and there is no such thing as catching up on sleep. Your husband spent most of the time up with him so be thankful , you're ahead in this game. The majority of moms can't look to dad for that mid-night help. When the time comes for your child to be in daycare or school and has to be picked because of illness or appointments, guess who has to leave their job ? That's just the way it is. Chhose your battles. Pristine house, our tidy house with slight disarray ? Chinese take-out, delivery, or fast food with a pristine kitchen, or a home cooked meal with dishes left in the sink overnight ? (Don't be so quick to chuck the first idea !)Don't do chores and errands while your child is napping. Take a nap and set the alarm for one hour. don't let your child sleep more than a hour, an hour to our bodies is 3 hours to theirs. put and keep you child on a sleep schedule and don't vary from it regardless of a holiday, snow day, weekend, or special occassion. You wiil do fine.
Posted by: Renee Acevedo | Oct 13, 2008 12:00:23 PM
Hi it has been 9 months taht i am a mother.Wheni had joined my offie after my maternity leave ,my moter in law came to saty with me & help me out ,for teh last 8 months she is staying with us & taking very good care of me as much as i don't even have to think about my little bundle of Joy. Although i don't get well along with my motehr in law ,but it is only weekend when i spend the whole day with at home ,otherwise i have a demanding job of y more then 10 hours. Now my mother in law is planning to go back to her own house which is in the otehr city, now i am not able to deide whetehr i should pursue her to come bak again afetr sometimes or not ,as currently for few months i am palnning to have some temporary arangement .
Posted by: mousumi | Oct 15, 2008 5:25:26 AM
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